I stopped by Walgreens yesterday and the cashier was so kind to everyone in line. She had a compliment for everyone. I loved that about her because she could find something positive to say about each guest that crossed her path. The woman in front of me received a compliment on her nails.
Cashier: Your nails are so pretty!
Guest: Oh they need to be done again. See these chips on this one? But thank you.
Why do we feel the need to explain away a nice compliment? Why didn’t she just say thank you? The guest is probably the only one who knew there was a chip on that one nail, and although it clearly bothered her, she basically watered down what the cashier has graciously said to her. So often we can’t take a compliment. We are so used to tearing ourselves apart in the mirror that we lose the ability to take a compliment. Children can take a compliment. If you say their shoes are cute they will say thank you and proceed to show you how fast they can run in them. Somewhere along the way we lose that acceptance of ourselves and others. If you have trouble taking a compliment, start flipping that script you tell yourself in the mirror. Pick out something you like about yourself each day and speak life into yourself in the mirror. It starts there. Then, while out and about, say a simple thank you to anyone who gives you a compliment. Stop there. Thank you period. Leave off the explanation of what’s wrong with the shirt or how old it is. You take the joy away from the compliment. Just say Thank You and go forth and be fabulous knowing that someone liked the shirt you have had for 15 years that needs to be replaced. Just be glad it still looks amazing enough for a compliment.
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Jennifer Anglin is a motivational speaker, life coach and author who shares personal stories of triumphs and tragedies to give hope to a dying world.